9 warning signals that tell you a therapist may be more suitable for your needs than coaching at this time.

  1. You spend lots of time in each coaching session ventilating about negative emotions and stressful situations in your life.
  2. You tend to be rather emotionally brittle and easily set off.
  3. You become defensive or overly sensitive to constructive criticism.
  4. You have fears or phobias that seem extreme and resistant to change.
  5. You can’t seem to make progress on your issues and keep coming back to the same themes that keep you stuck.
  6. You avoid talking about certain issues, out of fear, embarrassment or shame, or poor attentional control.
  7. Your coach expresses frustration that you won’t properly do homework, follow-through or speak openly about certain issues.
  8. You believe you have depression, severe anxiety, or addiction issues.
  9. You have a strong personal reaction to your coach, negative or positive, which gets in the way of the working relationship.

By Bill Cole, MS, MA, 

Founder and CEO
William B. Cole Consultants
Silicon Valley, California