EMOTIONAL CLARITY

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The clarity, not simplicity, of this methodology is in specificity and precision in the wording of the descriptions of what to do.  The complexity is in how to do it.  Fortunately, I can also offer useful clarity in that area as well.  Very succinct, clear, and specific help, with lots of ready-made examples.

What is required in order to get beyond our knee-jerk emotional reactions and do Real Thinking is what I refer to as Emotional Clarity. And the basis for the methodology’s approach to this is in what M Erkel identified as “The Dialectic of Hope”.

Abstract
The purpose of this qualitative study was to explore the processes of hoping in adults undergoing bone marrow transplantation (BMT) for leukemia. Grounded theory methodology was used to elicit the experience of hoping in 10 men and 10 women, ages 20-58, who had undergone BMT. The central process described by participants was that of maintaining hope. The core categories used to describe this process were Dealing With It and Keeping It in Its Place. Dealing With It is defined as the process of confronting the negative possibilities inherent in the illness experience and allowing the full range of thoughts, behaviors, and emotions resulting from this confrontation. Keeping It in Its Place is defined as the process of managing the impact of the illness by controlling or limiting one’s response to the disease and therapy. The relationship between these two contradictory core categories is explained by The Dialectic of Maintaining Hope. This dialectic is defined as the synthesis of the antithetical strategies of Dealing With It and Keeping It in Its Place in which people are able to transcend each strategy and sustain hope. The findings provide a nascent, explanatory model and information for nurses regarding an important adaptive process.

The process of maintaining hope in adults under–going bone…. Available from: https://www.researchgate.net/publication/21519602_The_process_of_maintaining_hope_in_adults_under-going_bone_marrow_transplantation [accessed Jun 22 2018].

This clarity does NOT mean, “Ah, the bad emotions are gone and I can think again!”

Rather, it is the result of consciously and intentionally giving these feelings their “due” enough so that one can also “keep them in their place”.

 

by fully feeling them and allowing oneself to tolerate imagining as actually happening whatever one fears might happen.

This process of “giving feelings their due” drains off enough of the emotional life and death immediacy of the feelings to break up the emotional log jamb that was blocking the ability to think—to “clear the emotional air” so to speak.  It also makes it possible, when appropriate, to “keep them in their place” and not allow emotions to dominate one’s immediate experience.

Unfortunately, Emotional Clarity is possibly one of the most difficult and daunting tasks around in human experience. Achieving it is not simple, nor is it obvious how to achieve it, without appropriate coaching.

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