VERY GLAD YOU’RE HERE–YOU WILL BE TOO! (original version)

Ever wished you could find that missing Manual for Living when you need it? Then you’ve come to the right place. Because this website is home to:

“HOW LIFE WORKS–OR AT LEAST IT CAN!”

The Manual

A 6 Step Methodology for Living Effectively–

Regardless of Feelings and Circumstances

&

LIFE EFFECTIVENESS COACHING

LIVING EFFECTIVELY

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THE 6 STEP METHODOLOGY

  1. Contain your emotions long enough to do Real Thinking.

  2. Using Real Thinking, distinguish between What’s So and what are only your and others’ feelings about What’s So.

  3. Make the best and most informed judgment call you can, and act accordingly.

  4. Let the chips fall where they may.

  5. If you aren’t killed or maimed by where they fall, use the same methodology for dealing with those chips.

  6. Rinse and repeat this process for the rest of your life.

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A BRIEF EXAMPLE

When someone says something nasty to you, you probably have a lot of strong emotions, all at once–and none of them pleasant.  What would your life be like if you could calmly say to yourself, “Gee, air just passed over someone’s vocal cords.”

You could, if you Contained your feelings as the sound waves registered in your brain and you could therefore consciously choose what importance and urgency you were WILLING to give those words—and respond accordingly.

In short, upsets are available every day. What would your life be like if most of the time, you could actually choose which upsets you are willing to give importance? And then deal effectively with the ones you choose to deal with?

This example may seem rather bland.  But what if you allow “upsets” to include everything and anything that is especially challenging and important to you? Then using this methodology could change your life in powerful and positive ways.

HOW THE MANUAL WORKS

THE BIGGEST PROBLEM in handling difficulties in living is not understanding what the real problem is. 

As the once famous cartoon character Pogo put it, “We have met the enemy, and he is us!” (REF)

If you have lived long enough, you probably already know some version of this truth from your own experience.  You might recognize things like:

  • “I know I should…but just can’t get myself do it”.
  • “My gosh, after all that therapy and all those incredible insights, I still can’t…
  • (fill in your favorite examples)

In short, we often do have a basic understanding of the real problem: It’s not just the circumstances.  It’s (mostly) us getting in our own way without knowing it.

WHAT’S BEEN LACKING is knowing how to make practical use of this understanding. That’s why we keep asking, “So where’s the “how to” manual about Life?”

This website dares claim to be an excellent start

on just such a manual.

SOME DESCRIPTORS OF THE MANUAL

It works   (avg. 5-star rating with 11 reviews)    (See Reviews)
  • Extremely teachable and informative
  • Straightforward, clear, and precise language
  • Easy to understand and enjoyable to read
  • Applies to any type of difficulty in living in any context
  • So directly applicable to your particular needs and circumstances

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EXAMPLES OF WHAT THE MANUAL TEACHES YOU

  • A common-sense, research-based framework for understanding emotions    Read More…
  • The power of emotions over thinking and perception    Read More…
  • How to deal with reality rather than just how we feel about it    Read More…
  • How to access Real thinking when you are so upset that you can’t    Read More…
  • Introducing Lonnie Lizard-Brain–Humanity’s Great (Unconscious) Protector    Read More…

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SOURCE OF THE MANUAL

This manual came about out of personal necessity over more than 30 years as a Clinical Psychologist, both in a university teaching hospital and in private practice (For CV, Click Here).

Over the past 10 years, I encountered a series of catastrophic circumstances in my personal life.  These demanded that I either find a way to keep going or be crushed by the circumstances.  I was only able to keep going by developing concepts and strategies that formed the beginning of the manual.

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WEBSITE GOALS

  • Create a virtual community of mutual support in learning to live as Real Adults through use of the manual.
  • Ongoing discussion about experiences in using the manual’s methodology
  • Participants thus become contributors and co-developers in extending the scope and usefulness of the manual and its methodology
  • Support for “real time/real world” training group environment that includes access to individual and group coaching.

WHO CAN BENEFIT

WAYS TO PARTICIPATE

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