A 6 STEP METHODOLOGY FOR LIVING AS A REAL ADULT

  1. Contain your emotions long enough to do Real Thinking

  2. Using Real Thinking, distinguish between What’s So and what are only your and others’ feelings about What’s So.

  3. Make the best and most informed judgment call you can, and act accordingly.

  4. Let the chips fall where they may.

  5. If you aren’t killed or maimed by where they fall, use the same methodology for dealing with those chips.

  6. Rinse and repeat this process for the rest of your life.

“Oh, I get it.  Just learn to control my emotions”

Absolutely NOT.

We do not have a choice about what we feel, or when we feel it.  We just feel it. The only conscious choice we do have with regard to our feelings is after we feel them.

We cannot “control” our feelings in the sense of forcibly steering or stopping or accelerating them like we do a car. But we can be in charge of them, and learn to manage ourselves and our feelings by containing them long enough to get back to Real Thinking

“Easier said than done–you make it sound so easy!”

It’s important to distinguish between “simple” and “clear”.  The methodology makes it clear, not simple.  Applying it to your life is anything but simple–that is, without adequate training and practice.