By “Living Effectively”, I do NOT mean:

  • Always getting what you want or intend

  • Always looking effective and successful to others, even when you are

I DO mean:

  • Able to manage yourself and have your emotions rather than just be had by them.

  • More often than not, able to recover access to Real Thinking shortly after disruption–or at least to manage yourself effectively until you can (= at least don’t make things worse)

  • Frequently able to get “unstuck” when “stuck”

  • Getting and achieving more of what you want more frequently than you would otherwise expect

  • Remaining in effective action whether it seems likely that you will succeed or not

  • Sustaining useful effort no matter how angry, sad, discouraged, frightened, fed up, (pick your emotion of choice) you may become

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